School Anger Management Programs
School Anger Management Programs
In Suite360 lessons for Anger Management, students will learn how to identify the triggers that will send their anger into uncontrolled fits of rage, how to maintain their composure, and what to do to regain their composure.
You know that feeling you get, when you’re so angry that you just want to let the world know to stay out of your way? Sometimes that feeling is so strong that it takes you completely over — there is nothing left but this eruption and it doesn’t matter who is around to witness it. Perhaps you’ve seen a situation like this at school or on the street. Perhaps you’ve had an incident like this. In either case, being in or near the situation can be scary and overwhelming.
You know that feeling you get, when you’re so angry that you just want to let the world know to stay out of your way?
Knowing what causes these feelings inside of you is an important part of stopping them from taking over your emotions. If you are witnessing someone lose control, it’s best to stay away from them completely and let other adults handle it. Let’s take a look at how uncomfortable uncontrolled anger can be:
Discussion Questions for Instructors:
- If you were in the cafeteria eating, how would you feel if you saw this?
- How do you think this girl’s behavior was affected by having an audience of her peers?
- What would you do if you were one of the faculty members?
- What’s an appropriate consequence for her behavior?
- If this was your friend, how could you help her?
Tantrums aren’t pretty. While many of the students were laughing and making comments, you can see the adults try to de-escalate the situation. You can see that it gets harder and harder to do that safely as the female continues to amp up. She put her safety and the safety of others in jeopardy during this situation.
Triggers: Know Them and Avoid Them
Many things can trigger these types of events. Knowing what your own triggers are will keep you from looking like the student in the video — kids were laughing at her because she was out of control and they didn’t know how to handle the situation.
When you feel or you see a close friend or family member start to feel anxious, it helps to switch their thinking around and get them to calm down with a few deep breaths before things get out of hand. By knowing the limits and taking a few deep breaths to get through a stressful situation, you can avoid such outbursts and the consequences that come with them.
Embrace Your Inner Calm
There are schools all across the country that spend the first part of their day meditating as a whole group. They take those first moments of the morning together to take deep breaths and embrace an inner calm that help them maintain their composure throughout the school day. Anything can happen in school that can test a person’s patience and resolve to be in control of their emotions. Meditating is one very good way of starting out with the right tools to help you make the right choices, regardless of the situation.
Learning how to Maintain
When you maintain your composure in school — or anywhere really — you are giving yourself a powerful gift: temperance. Being even tempered allows you to handle volatile situations that could easily push you to lose your cool. However, with an even temper, you can be confronted with those situations and navigate through them with calm. This is such an important life skill, because people will lose their tempers and their composure with you and if you can model temperance, you will be able to defuse the situation and move forward on top.
We think about different environmental triggers that bring up those feelings of extreme anxiety and rage. When you feel those things, it is important to remain calm and focused. A lot of the times, the environment has been created because you have allowed a variety of different things build up inside of you, now you are filled to the rim, and there is no other place for those emotions to go but out.
Empathy + Understanding = Composure
When we learn to empathize with the pains of difficult people, we are able to put aside our own misgivings about a situation and keep calm.
This is not easy by any means. It takes time and practice to not let other people annoy us to the point of losing control and letting anger get the best of you. Empathy is a powerful tool to help you understand where other people come from. This doesn’t mean that you have to accept what they are saying, but it’s a lot easier to walk away from someone when you understand why they behave the way that they do.
Understanding and meditation are very powerful tools to reduce anger and focus on maintaining your composure. When you are able to do this, you are giving yourself the tools to remain in control for life.
After You’ve Lost Your Mind
After a colossal meltdown happens, there’s a lot going on beneath the surface. The first is the people around you are trying to figure out what caused such an outburst of emotions. The second is how to navigate a solution to the first problem that caused the outburst to begin with. The third is then working on smoothing out the damage done from the whole incident. It can be very overwhelming.
How to Bring it Down
There are some things you can do right away on your own, on a regular basis, that can prepare you for tough situations. You can practice this on the way to school, sitting in class when you’re bored and you know you should be paying attention. You can do this at home, watching TV, or just before you go to sleep.
Learning to take deep breaths is very helpful when you are confronted with negative situations. After you’ve lost control, breathing deeply will allow you to regain your composure and think about the things you can do to recover from the incident. Here is a great video that you can watch that will help you to relax.
You don’t have to do anything but watch it and take some deep, slow breaths. Afterwards, assess how relaxed you feel:
Deep Breathing and Meditation
When you practice deep breathing, you get the chance to think things through. In the case of recovering from an episode of uncontrollable anger, you can take those few seconds to plan your apology and calmly try to find a solution to the initial problem that upset you to begin with. At the very least, you will have a moment to own your behavior and set it right with the people on the receiving end of it.
Deep breathing and meditation fits all types of stressful situations — ranging from uncontrolled anger to anxiety. You can use this simple technique on your own to “practice” deep breathing and finding the calm in the center of your personal storm.
Taking these steps, apologizing for the break, owning the mistake, and practicing de-escalation techniques like deep breathing will be a lifelong skill that will serve you well.